Do your beliefs & habits have you stuck?
You live most of life on auto-pilot!
Tell me if this has ever happened to you:
You get a text or a call asking you to pick up something from the store on your way home. When you show up without said item you realize you can’t even remember driving home.
This, my friend, is your subconscious mind at work. You and I have thousands of habit patterns, like computer programs, constantly running in the background of our minds. You can drive home without even thinking. And, without a reminder to go out of your way and stop at the store, you’ll simply obey your “going home” mental habit.
Your habits are a good thing and bad thing
You’d go crazy if you always had to think of everything you do. Tying your shoes, making coffee, driving your car, getting dressed. Your subconscious habits handle these mundane tasks to free your mind so you can focus on more important issues.
But you pay a price. You’ve also got a bunch of habits and beliefs that keep you captive. Eating when you’re bored or stressed, procrastinating, binge-watching Netflix. You can fill in your own vices. And you know how hard it is to change our “bad” habits.
Limiting beliefs: habits on steroids
I talked about the power of limiting beliefs and how to discover them in my previous post. Like habits, your limiting beliefs shape your choices and decisions. You can’t go any farther or faster than your limiting beliefs.
But the good news is that you can change your limiting beliefs and habits! You just have to talk to your subconscious. But you have to use language your subconscious understands.
Three steps to master your habits and beliefs
- Positive affirmation: You have to say what and who you want to be. This must be positive, present-tense language.
- Emotion: Your subconscious isn’t logical. Affirmations and self-talk alone won’t work. You must attach a positive emotion to your positive confession.
- Imagine: Use your imagination to picture your life and who you’ll be with your positive affirmation in place.
You’ll feel like a liar. But you have to say your affirmation as if you are already the person you want to be.
Don’t say, “I want to lose 30 pounds.”
Say, “I weigh _____________.”
Use the present tense and make it positive. “I’m not sick,” is negative. “I’m living in full health,” is positive.
Your subconscious responds to emotions and pictures. Create a positive emotion to connect to your affirmation. Gratitude is a good one.
Do this: Think about something you’re thankful for. It can be as simple as the air you breathe. Now let the feeling of gratitude bubble up into your thought.
You can connect this feeling of gratitude to your affirmation. You are grateful about your coming new life, aren’t you?
Your subconscious responds to emotions and pictures. Use your imagination to see yourself living in the affirmation and emotion that you’ve just said.
Are you thinking that you’re not good at using your imagination? You know how to imagine! If you know how to worry, you know how to use your imagination. Worry is imagination applied to a miserable life you don’t want.
The 30/30 method
You need massive action if you’re going to have success. Once or twice a day won’t help you much. You need to say, feel and see your affirmation 30 times a day for 30 days. And, just like that item you were supposed to bring home, you better have a reminder. You need lots of reminders! Here’s what I did . . .
Sticky note blizzard
Write “I am . . .” on sticky notes and put them on light switches, the coffee pot and the refrigerator. Say, feel and see your affirmation every time you flip the switch, get coffee or open the fridge.
You’ll be surprised at the person you’ll be 30 days from now.
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