Do you have this problem?
Tell me if this sounds familiar? You sometimes find yourself doing stuff you know is bad for you. And you often don’t get around to doing all the good stuff you know you should be doing. Don’t get me wrong! Most of your life is going good. But you should be aware that all of us have these frayed edges in life where we’d like to do better.
The life you have right now comes from the habits you have
The battle you fight when you want to change your life is that your habits work against you. Your unconscious mind (your subconscious) feels like every habit, even bad ones, are needed for your survival. And your logical arguments don’t stand a chance when you go up against the power of your unconscious mind. (See my previous post for more details about the power of your unconscious mind).
You probably already know the stories about how 70% of people who win the lottery end up losing it all. And some even rack up huge debts besides.
On the other had, have you heard the stories of business people losing a fortune then making it all back and more in their next venture?
The reason behind these stories is . . .
Success and mediocrity are both habits
Your habits are the biggest roadblock or the best asset to your success. Without the right habits, you’re likely to be like the 70% of broke lottery winners. But when your habits are conditioned for success, losing money or failing in business is only a temporary setback.
Sure, you need skills and tools. Learn everything you can about how to run a successful small business. But you need to remember that success comes from inside you–from your habits. Even though the focus of this blog is for entrepreneurs and small business owners, this truth applies to everyone. You have to change your habits if you want to have a better life than you have right now.
The three parts for making or breaking a habit
- Make a decision.
- Imagine the result you want.
- Feel the result you want.
First: Decide to turn off your autopilot
Your unconscious mind typically controls 95% of what you do and think. On the good side this means you can get dressed, eat breakfast and drive to work while you’re “thinking” about a problem you have to solve. On the bad side, you have other habits dumping buckets of crap into your body and mind.
The way to turn off your autopilot is to decide your going to think different thoughts. You do need logic, mindset and willpower to change your habits. But you also need the other two ingredients that follow in order to have any hope of success.
Second: Engage your imagination
Your unconscious mind understands pictures, not logic. You may already be aware of how some world-class athletes, before they compete, visualize their perfect performance. Their imagination taps into the power of their unconscious mind and gives them world-class results.
Decide what success looks like and imagine it.
For example, suppose you want to start exercising and get in shape. Picture your new body, toned and fit. Keep creating this picture and your unconscious mind will almost compel you to make your workouts a priority.
Third: Feel it and believe it
Your feelings are real. But your unconscious mind can’t tell whether your feelings come from actual experience or your imagination.
Have you ever worried yourself into depression? Have you ever imagined a worst-case scenario? When you worry, your fear and anxiety are real, but the events are imaginary.
But you also know how to use your imagination to bring good feelings. Remember the times you looked forward to something amazing? You felt good, even before it happened.
How to put the pieces together
Mastering your habits is easy when you make a decision about what you want and then use imagination and feelings to relay that idea to your unconscious mind.
Your unconscious mind isn’t logical
Consider what happens when someone is hypnotized. They will believe (for the most part) whatever the hypnotist tells them. We laugh when we see people in a trance on stage doing something silly. But don’t miss the fact that your own unconscious mind works the same way.
If you’re like me, you’ve lost countless battles trying to use logic, willpower, motivation and mindset to master your habits. But now you know the secret and can speak the language your unconscious mind will understand: The language of imagination and feelings.
Now that you know how to master your habits, who will you be?
Next time I’ll be talking about the power of being who you are.
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