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Once you decide what you want and you decide that you’re going to do what it takes to get what you want, you need to take the next step immediately!

Most people think the next step is to make a plan for how you’re going to get what you want! This is WRONG!

Oh, don’t misunderstand! You need a plan. But now is not the time for planning. Planning at this point will slow you down at best. At worst, it will completely derail you.

Raise your hand if you’re like me and have notebooks in a drawer with amazing plans for stuff you never did!

Now is not the time to plan! It’s time for action.

The number one most important thing you can do when you decide what you want and that you will do what it takes to get what you want is to START!

You don’t have to know how you’re going to do it.

You don’t have to know how to overcome the obstacles you’ll face.

You don’t have to go research Google and YouTube. 

You do have to start! Take the first intentional step toward your goal.

It doesn’t even matter if you’re headed in the right direction!

What matters is that you start immediately.

You see, your mind will begin to fight against you if you wait too long to start.

Your mind and your body love to stay in the comfort zone.

In fact, there is a part of your brain that will send a fear alert anytime you try something new.

You know hard it is to change a habit that you don’t want any more.

Even if you’re doing something you know is not good for you – smoking, overeating, drinking too much–your brain and body conspire to keep you from changing.

And the longer you spend planning and getting your ducks in a row the less likely you are to start.

When you make a strong decision, your mind knows that trying to stop you head-on won’t work. So your mind tries to sidetrack you.

“Make a plan. Design your logo. Hire a branding consultant. Print business cards. Get more education.”

And it feels like you’re working to get to your goal. But you’re actually spinning your wheels.

It’s important to immediately take a small step toward your goal.

Example:

Sept. 2017 I decided to run a 50 mile trail race the next September.

The next day I went out and ran a mile on a trail.

Old street shoes. Not even good running shoes.

Hadn’t run in 30 years.

Never run on trails before.

No idea how to train.

But I knew I had to start. I knew I would figure out how to get it done.

That decision changed my life. I met hundreds of amazing people. And I started this podcast where I get to talk about how an ultramarathon mindset can help you get out of your rut and moving toward an epic life.

None of this would have happened if I didn’t start. 

So once you decide what you want, START. Don’t wait. Get moving. Once you’re moving you can adjust your direction. Once you’re moving you can figure out the next step and the next. But you have to start moving.

That’s the most important thing you can do once you decide what you want.

If you’re feeling resistance to figuring out what you want or getting started, go to ultramindsetpodcast.run and book a free 25 min mindset reset consultation. I will help you get started to your epic life.

 Speaker notes

What is the number one most important thing you have to do if you want to have an amazing life? 

You have to do this if you want to have even a good life.

You have to do this even to get a mediocre life.

The better you are at this one thing, the better your life will be.

And if you have epic skills at this one thing, you can have an epic life.

So what is the one thing you have to do in order to have an epic life?

You have to make Powerful Decisions!

The level of power you put into your decisions will determine the level of epicness in your life.

If you make good decisions, you’ll have a good life.

Mediocre decisions – mediocre life.

Bad decisions . . . you see how this works.

So what makes a decision powerful? What’s the difference between a regular decision and a powerful one?

Regular decisions: what I’ll wear, what to have for dinner, what races will I sign up for?

Powerful decisions affect the direction of and quality of your life!

Powerful decisions have 3 steps.

1. Decide what you want.

I talked about this 2 weeks ago. You need to do the work to get past your ego and politically correct “wants” to your core and passion.

Sometimes you have to go to what you don’t want and choose the opposite. (Focusing on what you don’t want is a BAD idea.)

Be specific & know your result.

NOT: I want better health, get in shape, lose weight.

Rather: I will weigh under 200# and be able to run/walk 3 mi.

Eg: I want to have a business that gives me the freedom to work from anywhere so I can have adventures around the world. (Brian Hoover)

2. I WILL do what it takes to get what I want.

Important: change I want to I will.

Have you ever been around someone who doesn’t like their life and only complains about how miserable they are?

You give them solutions that you know will work, and it’s like they don’t even hear you. 

They have a victim mindset. It’s someone else’s fault – Parents. Or bad luck. Evil greedy corporations. 

When you make a decision that you WILL do what it takes to get what you want, you take charge of your destiny.

You don’t need to know how you’re going to get what you want. The decision will set your mind to work to figure out how to make it happen.

3. Decide to go all the way to the finish.

This comes from the mindset you need to run an ultramarathon. 

Decide before the race what it will take for you to DNF.

Risk of permanent injury or death = DNF.

Anything less – Keep moving forward.

You’ll have plenty of reasons to quit. 

You need the power of a strong decision to keep going.

Decide that you will keep going until you get what you want.

Making powerful decisions will work for anything you want. 

It’s a good idea to spend time to be sure that what you want is going to be worth the effort.

I want an epic life. And I want to be around other people who want an epic life. 

You can do more than you ever imagined.

Speaking notes

You will face three roadblocks when you set out to be the best version of yourself and go after an epic life.

These aren’t the only roadblocks, but these are the ones waiting for you right out of the gait. 

If you are feeling stuck, it’s probably one of these three mental blocks you’re dealing with. 

If you are trying to grow, be the best version of yourself, you will have resistance. 

Limiting beliefs that keep you from having what you want.

Last week I talked about ways to figure out what you want.

That is the first step!

Usually you will feel resistance. (You will feel resistance in the process of figuring out what you want.) But once you do, you will bump into your limiting beliefs.

These limiting beliefs are the reason you don’t already have what you want.

Power of limiting beliefs is fear. 

Here are the top 3 fears that keep you stuck.

1. Fear I don’t deserve to have what I want.

“Impostor syndrome.” Inner voice: “Who do you think you are?” (voices from PWM) “You’re not good enough.”

Related: 

You’re selfish to want to be better than us. (Everyone gets a trophy)

** Your success might make others feel bad, so you should hold yourself back.

** When you are successful, you shouldn’t feel too good about yourself or celebrate.

(My belief) To be a good Xan you have to lay aside what you want and do something to serve God.

If you want something (strong desire) it’s probably not the will of God for your life.

God only gives you success so you can have money to give away to others. (Not just a Xan belief)

2. Fear of failure.

All you perfectionists know what I’m talking about.

“If there’s a chance I might fail, why even try?”

Education system reinforces this to perfectionists and indoctrinates the rest of us.

You need to learn the “right” answers and be ready to show you know the “right” answers when we test you. If you don’t know the “right” answers, you FAIL!

In real life, there are few times you can’t recover from failure: skydiving

In real life, failure is the way you accomplish significant things!

Think about how you learned to walk. Walking is significant!

You fell down over and over. 

You didn’t say, “Well, it’s obvious I’m not cut out to be a walker. I’ll stick to crawling”

But we adults are different. We stick to crawling because we failed or are afraid we might fail.

3. Fear of success.

This one is not so obvious. Why would you fear success?

It’s related to Impostor Syndrome.

When you have success, your life changes. And most people don’t handle change very well.

First: Your family and friends know who you are and what to expect from you. They have a file in their mind w/ your name on it. They’ve made up their minds about who you are and what you do and how you fit into their world.

When you change, 1) They won’t see it. 2) It makes them uncomfortable.

You can see this when you lose weight or change your hair. You can see it clearly. Friends and family usually won’t notice.

They don’t see you. They see their memory file of you.

When you have success, it makes them uncomfortable, because they have to change their file system. Subconsciously they wonder if you’ll still fit in the file system of “People I like and want to hang out with!”

So success can make you afraid because your friends and family will treat you differently.

Also, you have the same kind of file system in your mind about who you are.

And, when you have success, you have to change how you see yourself.

Your identity determines what you allow yourself to do.

I’m an omnivore. If a vegan asks me to lunch, I’m willing to eat whatever looks good on the menu.

But if I offer a vegan a slab of BBQ ribs, they’ll say, “I’m a vegan.”

I run because I’m a runner. I know how to swim . . . but I’m not a swimmer.

Fear of success is sneaky. It’s harder to spot. But it can stop you in your tracks just as sure as fear of failure or feeling that you don’t deserve success.

How do you deal with resistance?

MINDSET

You can get past your limiting beliefs. As a mindset coach, I have a variety of strategies to help.

The first step is making a powerful decision. I’ll talk more about that next week.

If you are stuck with limiting beliefs, Impostor Syndrome, fear of failure, fear of success, I can help you get started on your road to success. 

Free mindset reset call: ultramindsetpodcast.run