Your questions shape your mindset
Tony Robbins: “The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself”
If you want a better life, you need to ask better questions.
You may ask, “How do I tell the difference between a good question and a bad one?”
First: Get away from the idea of good and bad. Instead – helpful vs. unhelpful.
What kind of questions do you need to ask to improve your life?
How can you use them?
These are examples of helpful questions.
First: How do questions influence the quality of your life?
Your mind is designed to answer questions.
The instant you hear or think of a question, your mind jumps to attention like a dog hearing a food wrapper.
Sales people know this: “Quick question . . .”
So, the quality of questions you ask will set your mind to work to find an answer.
10 words starting sentences for questions
Who
What
Why
Where
When
How
If
Is
Can / may
Will
Today talk about 4 – two helpful & two unhelpful
Unhelpful: Why & When
Why did this happen?
Why don’t they treat me better?
Why can’t I lose weight?
Why do I feel like people are judging me?
Why did I: Buy this POS car? Take this job? Get in this relationship? Agree to help my friends move?
Why questions are the most unhelpful questions you can ever ask.
- Often the answer is out of reach . . . unknowable.
- Knowing the answer doesn’t matter.
- Answer reinforces your failure
When questions put you in a dependent position. You’re waiting for something to happen.
When will life get back to normal?
When will my boss decide to give me a raise?
When will my parents ever realize I’m an adult now?
“When” is focused on the future.
“When” questions mean that you’re hoping or expecting something to happen that is out of your control.
Hope is not a strategy.
If you’re asking questions that begin with when, you are in a passive position waiting for other people, the government, or fate to do something to make your life better.
Why and when are unhelpful questions when you’re looking for an epic life.
Two powerful questions, if you know how to use them.
What & How.
I said at beginning:
What kind of questions will improve the quality of my life?
How do I use them?
What and how questions set your mind on a course to find solutions.
And the better you craft your questions, the better solutions you’ll find.
Practice refining your questions to make them better.
What questions
What kind of questions will improve my life?
What do I need to do to improve the quality of my questions?
What do I want for my life and what questions will I need to ask to get there?
What do I need to do next?
How questions
How can I use questions to improve my life?
How can I find ways to apply questions to make my life better?
How can I set up a system to help me pay attention to the quality of my questions and learn how to ask better questions?
The quality of your life comes from the quality of the questions you ask.
How do you ask better questions?
Pay attention to whether the questions you’re asking are helpful or unhelpful.
Assignment: Pay attention to your questions. Practice asking better ones.
Start with this one: What can I do to remind myself to ask better questions?
Leave a Reply