Speaking Notes:
Anger Management
Imagine yourself sitting in the scene from Anger Management.
Who are you?
Not your job.
Not your personality.
Not your roles and responsibilities: Mother, Father, Husband, Wife
Most of the time none of us stop to think about this.
Why does it matter?
Carl Jung: The world will ask who you are, and if you don’t know, the world will tell you.
What does this mean?
The world will tell you that who you are is determined by what you do and what you have.
Job.
Role as father, mother, wife, husband.
The talents/skills you have . . . sports, art, music.
The car you drive.
The house you live in.
The clothes you wear.
How attractive you are.
This is a trap.
If you’re looking “out there” to know who you are, you’re letting the world define your identity.
Most of us fall in line and accept our place in the world and what we’ve been told about who we are & are supposed to be.
But there are some of us who wake up and see that this isn’t working for us anymore.
Usually happens around 30 to 40.
Then you’re left with the same question.
I’m not going to let the world tell me who I am.
But now what?
How do I find out who I am?
Place to start:
Core values
Eg. Loyalty, Honesty, Integrity, Kindness, Tenacity, Keeping your word to others & self
Core beliefs
About yourself. About the world.
When you live from your core values and core beliefs, you have an answer when the world asks who you are.
You live your best life.
You make a difference in the world and in the lives of the people around you.
Here is the most important part:
You decide your core values and core beliefs.
If your core values and beliefs are not working for you, you can change them.
If you look at who you are and don’t like what you see, you can choose to see yourself differently and become the person you want to be.
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