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Your mindset determines who you are and what kind of life you have.
If you feel stuck or trapped in a ho-hum life, it’s because of your mindset.
Mindset: The story you tell yourself . . . about yourself.
When you tell a story, the words matter.
You can use words that make you the hero of the story or you can use words that make you the victim.
Power word 1: Only
Only is a diminishing word. It minimizes whatever you apply it to and makes it appear and feel less significant or less important.
Negative: I’m only ____________.
Only 23. Only HS grad. Only a______ (title/job/role).
You diminish your ability and your value to yourself and others.
Used as an excuse for why you can’t . . . excuse for mediocrity.
I’m only ___________, so I can’t be awesome . . . a winner . . . successful.
Positive: It’s only ___________.
Make something feel easier – Only a short distance. Only a few minutes. Only a little thing to do.
Example: Run 100 miles. Mind is overwhelmed. Only have to run to next aid station (5 or 6 miles).
Power word 2: Yet
Possibility word
Negative effects of Yet
Turn the positive into a negative.
Whatever is going on in my life that is good (or even just OK) won’t last.
Hasn’t happened yet . . . but you expect it to.
Had the flu yet. Lost my job. My car hasn’t quit running. (Runners) Knees haven’t gone bad.
Often followed by KNOCK ON WOOD.
Why knock on wood? Folklore belief that spirits lived in trees. Knocking on wood distracts them from making what you said come upon you.
But how about this? Stop speaking curses over your life!
When you look into your future and expect the worst and speak it out loud, your mind is listening.
The words you say reflect your thoughts. Not only conscious, but unconscious. And your unconscious thoughts have the power to create your present reality and your future.
Positive effects of Yet
Turn around the negative.
Not yet.
Whatever my situation is right now is going to change in the future.
You’re just not good at _____.
I don’t know how to___.
I can’t ____.
Use the word YET when someone tries to pull you down or put limiting beliefs on you.
Use the word YET to turn around your negative self talk.
Use the word YET to keep discouragement away when you’re learning something new.
Words make up the story that is your mindset.
Your mindset is the story you tell yourself about yourself.
Change the words you use and you change the story, and you change your mindset, and you change your life.
Bonus power word:
If vs. When
When you have a goal or project you’re working on, be careful to use when instead of if.
If I can get my business going, I can quit my soul-sucking job.
If I can lose weight, I’ll have clothes that fit better.
If my body heals, I’ll be able to run again.
Practice:
Your self-talk.
Conversation Jiu-Jitsu
Your self-talk:
Pay attention to the words coming out of your mouth and going on inside your head. Notice when you hit these power words and notice if you’re using them to help you or hurt you.
Conversational Ju-Jitsu:
People will say things to you and about you that can infect your mindset like a virus. Pay attention, and use these power words to reverse their negative words.
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